昨天，又一帮trainne弟弟妹妹们经历了轮岗内的处女拍。由于是第一次，免不了被拍的七荤八素，self-awareness都more or less地受到了鞭挞，有时候一鞭子下去皮开肉绽，无它，只是因为皮太嫩。

其实，trainee life is like a molding process。你首先要选择这个是不是你要用来打磨自己的模子。如果你觉得是，那么还得认清的是：无论这个模子有多么让你喜欢，或者你觉得有多么适合你，它也不可能是百分之百为你量身定制的，你总得被打磨掉一些棱角、留些血、受些痛才能fit in。

不过，千万要记住：模子毕竟是模子，事实上它只给了个形状，而你才是那个可以决定到底哪部分应剔除，哪部分应留下的那个人。千万别把灵魂和真我磨掉了。。。千万别成为一个没有生命，被别人定义的形状可人的玩意儿。

多和自己对话，多批判地接收反馈，认清自我，只磨掉那些阻隔你看清真我，展现真我的障碍。

Take it easy and enjoy the process of becoming more of yourself.

送给所有在“掐”“拍”中痛并快乐着的战友们！

I'm here for you!

另：Jack同学都有点被妖魔化了，一个把“掐”“拍”演绎到某种境界的老手。其实，没什么，我也会。

It's true. And how do you know when you're doing something right? How do you know that? It feels so. What I know now is that feelings are really your GPS system for life. When you're supposed to do something or not supposed to do something, your emotional guidance system lets you know. The trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checking your gut instead. Every right decision I've made—every right decision I've ever made—has come from my gut. And every wrong decision I've ever made was a result of me not listening to the greater voice of myself.

If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. That's the lesson. And that lesson alone will save you, my friends, a lot of grief. Even doubt means don't. This is what I've learned. There are many times when you don't know what to do. When you don't know what to do, get still, get very still, until you do know what to do.

And when you do get still and let your internal motivation be the driver, not only will your personal life improve, but you will gain a competitive edge in the working world as well. Because, as Daniel Pink writes in his best-seller, A Whole New Mind, we're entering a whole new age. And he calls it the Conceptual Age, where traits that set people apart today are going to come from our hearts—right brain—as well as our heads. It's no longer just the logical, linear, rules-based thinking that matters, he says. It's also empathy and joyfulness and purpose, inner traits that have transcendent worth.

These qualities bloom when we're doing what we love, when we're involving the wholeness of ourselves in our work, both our expertise and our emotion.

So, I say to you, forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly, just harness your power to your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success will come to you."

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"My friend Eckhart Tolle, who's written this wonderful book called A New Earth that's all about letting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: He says, don't react against a bad situation; merge with that situation instead. And the solution will arise from the challenge. Because surrendering yourself doesn't mean giving up; it means acting with responsibility."

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"if you're hurting, you need to help somebody ease their hurt. If you're in pain, help somebody else's pain. And when you're in a mess, you get yourself out of the mess helping somebody out of theirs. And in the process, you get to become a member of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the sorority of compassion and the fraternity of service. "